What Is Narcissism and How Can You Spot a Narcissist
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Many of you made heard of narcissists or narcissistic behavior and may ask, “What is narcissism?”, “How can I spot a narcissist?” or, “How can I avoid a narcissist?”
When you know what to look for, you may realize you’re either living with a narcissist, working with one, or may have a parent who exhibited narcissistic behaviors.
Narcissism in not gender specific and although it is not always easy to spot a narcissist, here are a few instances where you may have been dealing with a narcissist and didn’t know it:
If you
• have worked with a demanding boss who made you feel inadequate
• were raised by a domineering parent who had to be right about everything
• dated someone who demanded lots of emotional maintenance but rarely reciprocated
• had family members who challenged and criticized incessantly
• were friends with someone who seemed to require you walk on eggshells around them,
you were more than likely dealing with a narcissist.
Lori Hoeck, of Think Like a Black Belt, and I have written “The Narcissist: A User’s Guide ” to help you understand why a narcissist would be seeking to prey upon you. We’ve gathered stories that illustrate the bewildering ways a narcissist will manipulate circumstances to blame you for everything and make you believe it. You’ll be able to see how a narcissist will use your weak points and words against you for control in the relationship. But more importantly, this e-book is going to help you fight your way out of a harmful situation.
Most people enter adulthood with a fair amount of naïveté. Seeking love and acceptance, they may put up with bad behavior from others. Many will seek approval from their peers or look for an authoritative mentor. Some will think they can change a difficult person with loving kindness. All of these circumstances can be more dangerous than a run-of-the-mill encounter might first suggest. They all signify potential for exploitation to a narcissist.
Narcissists can present themselves in almost any venue. Their method of building themselves up at the expense of others is, paradoxically, rooted in their own low self-esteem. Somewhere, at a very young age, a narcissist begins to think that he or she is inferior to others. That inferiority complex morphs into an ever-increasing need to validate themselves. They do this by putting you down. The lower you are in the pecking order, the higher they can be by comparison. If you buy into the false scenario they’ve constructed, they’ll continue. The process depletes you and feeds them. They are emotional vampires.
The more Lori and I observed and studied narcissistic behavior, the more we realized how prevalent it is. Even if you’ve never dealt with a narcissist, chances are you may know someone who has, or who is currently battling this toxic dynamic. Curiously, though, there are few resources to obtain help, and many of those are more suitable for medical professionals, psychotherapists and counselors.
We know our concise User’s Guide, which turns the tables on the toxic dynamic, can provide needed information and hope.
We’re making the e-book available for free download so that it can easily get to anyone who might benefit.
Defending against a narcissist and leaving the relationship may be the most difficult things someone may face. The most important thing we can do for someone who is involved in a narcissistic relationship is offer support and a respite from the dysfunction. The Narcissist: A User’s Guide provides encouragement, strategies and tips that can be implemented to neutralize and, ultimately, negate a narcissist’s influence.
Download your free copy of “The Narcissist” here.
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This post was written by Betsy Wuebker, author of “Passing Thru” (the blog) and co-author of “The Narcissist” (the free ebook)
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Get Children To Eat Vegetables
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On Oprah today (10/8/07), Deceptively Delicious: Simple Secrets to Get Your Kids Eating Good Food
This is a cookbook that uses purees to add healthy vegetables to common foods. thus encouraging children to eat more vegetables. She uses chick peas, beets, broccoli, cauliflower purees, just to name a few.
What a wonderful way to get not only children, but adults, to eat their vegetables. All of the recipes are low in fat, and according to Oprah, were great tasting.
A sampling of the recipes can be found on Oprah’s website. You’ll find recipes for such things as chocolate cake, macaroni and cheese, meatloaf, chicken nuggets, and pancakes.
On the same show, Oprah had Dr. Oz as a guest. Again, he reiterated how important fiber is in our diets. Not sure how to get additional fiber into your diet, read: Add Fiber To Your Diet With Fiber One Cereal
Deceptively Delicious: Simple Secrets to Get Your Kids Eating Good Food
What a great way to get your children to eat vegetables.
Secrets To Making A Marraige Last – “Project Everlasting”
This morning on the “Today” show, Natalie Morales interviewed two young men who have written a book called: Project Everlasting: Two Bachelors Discover the Secrets of Americas Greatest Marriages
These young men, Mathew Boggs and Jason Miller, traveled across country, interviewing couples who had been married at least 40 years. They wanted to know what made the marriages last. From their research, the book “Project Everlasting” was born.
The things that resonated in the interview were, commitment, communication and respect. Isn’t that true? If we can’t talk to one another, want to stay with each other or don’t have mutual respect, what kind of marriage do we have?
I haven’t read “Project Everlasting” yet, but it’s definitely a book I’m going to put on my “must read” list. If this book is as good as it sounds, I think it would make a great gift for a young couple, as they get ready to embark on a new marriage.
I’ll bet this book is filled with lots of great stories, and readers will gain tremendous insight into how to make their own relationships stronger.
If you’ve read it, let me know what you thought, by leaving me a comment.
No tags for this post.Positive Thinking – Daily Devotional Book
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One of my favorite daily devotional books for maintaining positive thinking is: Daily Readings from Your Best Life Now: 90 Devotions for Living at Your Full Potential
This is a book I like to read in the morning to get my day off to a positive start. The book follows Scripture, includes interesting stories, and it reminds me to stay focused. It teaches me to not to be judgmental, and to see the best in others. It’s a book that helps me remain optimistic. knowing every day is a blessing.
Daily Readings from Your Best Life Now: 90 Devotions for Living at Your Full Potential
This is a book I would highly recommend to anyone who wants to retain or develop a Scripture based positive attitude.
No tags for this post.Inspirational and Self Help Books – Some of My Favorites
Reading books is a great way to expand your knowledge base. I have been influenced by many books during my life. In the past few years, these are a few that have inspired me, encouraged me, and helped me to keep a positive attitude.
Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential
Daily Readings from Your Best Life Now: 90 Devotions for Living at Your Full Potential
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? (Purpose Driven Life)
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